WHY DO EMPATHS ATTRACT NARCISSISTS IN RELATIONSHIPS?

Empaths are often loving, patient, and kind. On the other hand, they can have a seemingly insatiable need to rescue and love. That’s because empaths tend to feel validated when they connect with others.

Narcissists often seek out empaths because the empath tends to be cooperative, compassionate, and low-key.

The level of cooperativeness is critical. Narcissists seek out this trait in their partners because they recognize they don’t possess it themselves. They know that overly cooperative partners will sacrifice their happiness and needs to maintain the relationship’s stability

Empaths find themselves attracted to narcissists because they initially present as strong, confident, and charming. They may shower you with compliments and affection. Moreover, they may be quick to profess their love and happiness in being with you. All of these actions are carefully crafted to lure you in.

The narcissist may paint stories of trauma or low self-esteem. They often complain of feeling misunderstood. Empaths can usually empathize with the narcissist in ways nobody else can. They often play into the victim stories their narcissistic partners tell them.

Similarly, empaths also tend to believe they can change the narcissist. They assume their love and kindness can change the narcissist’s need for power and control.

They also assume that the narcissist doesn’t mean to hurt them. Unfortunately, this line of thinking is incorrect. Narcissists value power and control above anything else in a relationship. They lack empathy and regard for others. As a result, they will continue testing their empathic partners to ensure their utmost compliance.

What causes someone to be an empath?

There isn’t a single factor contributing to the empath personality. Instead, it appears that a combination of different variables contributes to this phenomenon.

Like with all personalities, individual temperament seems to play a role. We’re all born with different levels of sensitivities. You can observe these basic differences just by watching how babies interact with the world. While some babies are fairly mellow and calm, others are far more reactive to different lights or sounds.

Genetics can also be a determining factor. Highly sensitive people often have mothers or fathers with the same traits. The modeling of this sensitivity may pass down from generation to generation.

Finally, trauma also plays a significant factor in one’s sensitivity. Almost all empaths have a history of emotional or physical abuse. Trauma impacts how safe people feel in their relationships. It also affects one’s self-esteem and mental well-being.

EXHAUSTED EMPATHS!!!!

At its core, exhausted empaths are tired of their own empathy! They give and they give, but they receive so little in return.

They don’t set boundaries with others. If they do, they fail to implement them.

Exhausted empaths often try to please everyone. These pleasing tendencies extend beyond the relationship with the narcissist.

They often act submissively in all relationships, including ones with family members and coworkers.

The exhausted empath’s motives can feel both desperate and erratic. They’re good listeners, but it seems like nobody listens to them.

They may want to fix other people, but they don’t recognize that some people can’t or don’t want to be fixed.

It’s no surprise that exhausted empaths tend to have low self-esteem. As a result, they tend to stay in toxic relationships.

They might subscribe to the false belief that love conquers all. They might also hold onto the magical thinking that their partner will change if only they do A, B, or C.

Exhausted empaths aren’t just exhausted. They’re often resentful, bored, or completely apathetic about their lives. They may struggle with profound depression or anxiety.

EMPOWERED EMPATHS!!!!!

Empowered empaths recognize their people-pleasing tendencies, and they aim to do something about it.

They aren’t victims of their circumstances. They choose to rise above their discouraged empath status.

Empowered empaths understand the need for setting and identifying healthy boundaries.

They recognize their feelings matter.

They don’t tolerate people who can’t respect their basic needs.

Empowered empaths protect their hearts and minds. They value their integrity, and they have learned to harness their sensitivity only for people who deserve it.

They still listen and give love, but they don’t give it endlessly.

They also make sure to practice self-care and self-love.

For these reasons, empowered empaths tend to live serene, fulfilling lives. They recognize they can control their actions.

They also identify the importance of surrounding themselves with healthy and positive people.

Finally, empowered empaths learn from their mistakes. They recognize that slip-ups can and do occur. Rather than backslide into old ways of thinking, they know how to move themselves back on track. #CreatingAnEpicLife.

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