We are not here to reparent or rehabilitate adults who've refused to grow up and be accountable for

Unfortunately, too many people believe that unconditional love, trying to help dysfunctional people "see positive things" about themselves, and keeping them out of trouble equates to helping that person grow or evolve.

Just as there is pathological narcissism, there is pathological altruism. Altruism turns dark when engaging in it becomes harmful or enabling.

For example, a parent who is so focused on rehabilitating the narcissist, their relationships with their children go down the drain.

Other signs of pathological altruism include all of your efforts resulting in outcomes that only benefit the narcissist; your level of teamwork smoothing the cracks that result from your partner's non-cooperativeness; believing that the more cooperative you are, the more connected it makes you to your toxic partner and that he or she will eventually acknowledge your efforts and appreciate them; you consistently compromising your own interests and goals to help the narcissist achieve theirs.

If you're dealing with a narcissist, unfortunately, you're the last person in the world who is going to make them awaken or improve. If you are the target of their abuse, your best choice is to walk away because their abuse and unreasonableness will always outlast your sanity and compassion.

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