I Feel Your Pain, Dear Heart.

You don't want to leave the narcissist because you think they need you…you think they love you.

You believe, because your heart hurts when there's conflict between you, that the narcissist feels the same way.

You think, because they send you a text every now and then, that they still care.

You believe that if you leave them, they won't have anyone left and their life will be destroyed.

You believe leaving them would make you heartless.

But dear heart, you must remember that while you have all these tender feelings of love and devotion for the narcissist, they would throw you under the bus in a second.

They're out there scouting for new supply. They're texting other people, meeting up with them behind your back, and if they don't do those things…they're on very dubious websites, cheating on you that way.

You are projecting your good heart onto the narcissist.

You are keeping the fantasy of the love-bombing phase alive in your mind and insisting they feel the same way as they appeared to back then.

The feelings of love you think the narcissist has for you (you know, under all their vile relationship crimes) exist only in your mind, dear one.

These feelings and thoughts you're having are due to trauma bonding and Stockholm Syndrome. And guess what, narcissists don't feel trauma bonds or Stockholm Syndrome, only their victims do.

Simply put, your love and devotion are completely wasted on the narcissist. Imagine what it would be like if you cared for yourself that way...

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Always thinking of you.